How to spot internet addiction in your child

Your child is spending more and more time online. 

It’s become increasingly difficult to engage them in different activities. 

There’s a lot of arguing and stress over device use. 

You may begin to wonder – Could my child be addicted to the internet??

If you’ve ever considered this, you’re not alone. Parents of children and teens are increasingly worried about the amount of time their kids spend on the internet. In today’s world, the internet plays a significant role in our kids’ lives; offering a wealth of information and opportunities for connection. However, the internet also can present a risk of overuse and addict-like behavior, particularly in vulnerable populations such as children. While there is no clinical diagnosis of internet addiction disorder, the concept represents a growing concern around the impact of excessive use on a child’s well-being and development.

Is the internet addicting?

While the internet itself is not inherently addictive, certain online activities and features can trigger addictive behaviors. The interactive nature, constant availability, and instant gratification offered by the internet contribute to its potential addictiveness. Research suggests that excessive use of the internet can lead to biological changes in the brain, and create a cycle of seeking pleasure and avoiding discomfort, similar to other addictive substances or behaviors.

Is internet addiction a real thing?

Professionals in the fields of medicine and mental health have been increasingly concerned about the impact of excessive internet use on children and adults. There is broad recognition that some children and teens are more susceptible to addictive-type behaviors related to the internet and digital media use in general. However, at this time there is no specific formal language or diagnosis to describe this condition. 

People may use terms such as “internet addiction disorder”, “problematic interactive media use”, and “gaming addiction” to describe behaviors of concern. Currently there is an official clinical diagnosis of “internet gaming disorder” (IGD), which is specific to addictive behavior surrounding games only. 

When parents and professionals raise concerns around internet-focused behavior that seems addictive, we’re generally talking about behavior that is characterized by an excessive and compulsive preoccupation with internet activities that negatively impacts daily functioning. This can involve a sense of loss of control over internet use, withdrawal symptoms when offline, avoidance of real-life relationships and activities, and negative consequences in various areas of life.

How common is internet addiction?

The prevalence of internet addiction in children varies across studies, making it challenging to determine the exact figures. However, recent research indicates that it is a significant issue affecting a notable proportion of children and adolescents. 

Data indicates internet addiction problems to be present in anywhere from less than 1% of the population, to over 25% of the population depending on geographical location, ages, and the way symptoms are defined. There may be a higher prevalence of internet addiction among adolescents, due to their developmental phase and increased susceptibility to addictive behavior and brain changes.

What are the signs of internet addiction in children?

Recognizing the signs of addiction-like behavior in young people is crucial, as it allows parents and others to support and intervene in helpful ways before the problems worsen. Here are some common signs to watch for:

1. Excessive preoccupation 

This can present as constantly thinking/talking about being online, becoming restless or agitated when unable to access the internet, or prioritizing online activities over other responsibilities.

2. Avoidance of real-life tasks and responsibilities

This may look like worsening academic performance, neglecting household chores, or withdrawing from previously enjoyed activities and hobbies. The child’s online world takes precedence, and other aspects of life suffer. It may be extremely difficult for adults to engage them in other activities.

3. Withdrawal symptoms

A child who experiences significant irritability, restlessness, mood swings, or anxiety when disconnected from the internet may indicate addiction. Keep in mind that most kids exhibit these things to some degree, but if it’s more severe and chronic then it’s a concern.

4. Escalating internet use

If a child spends increasing amounts of time online, chronically surpassing what is considered normal or healthy, it could suggest the presence of addiction. This would generally be combined with avoidance of real-life activities and increasing resistance around participating in offline activities.

5. Increasing changes in health and daily life behaviors

This might look like losing more and more sleep as a result of internet use. It could also present as appetite/eating changes, neglect of personal care, or avoidance of other important daily life health and self-care habits. 

How to stop internet addiction

Addressing internet addiction requires a comprehensive approach involving parents, educators, and mental health professionals. Here are some effective strategies to help children who are struggling:

1. Establish clear boundaries

Set clear guidelines regarding internet usage, such as designated times for online activities and restrictions on specific websites or applications. Set expectations and work with children to engage in a variety of offline activities each day.

2. Encourage open communication

Create a safe and supportive environment where children can openly discuss their internet use and any difficulties they may be facing. Foster dialogue about responsible internet usage and the potential consequences of excessive screen time. Take a curious and supportive, rather than critical and punitive, approach.

3. Promote alternative activities

Introduce children to alternative hobbies and interests that capture their attention and provide a sense of fulfillment. Encourage physical activities, creative pursuits, and social interactions as healthy alternatives to the online world. Do these things with your children to provide structure and support. Getting them involved in group activities can also be helpful.

4. Limit device access

Control the availability of digital devices and apps, especially during times they should be doing other things. Keep smartphones and tablets out of the child’s bedroom to minimize late-night internet use and promote healthy sleep habits. I highly recommend the use of a parental control tool, such as Qustodio, to make these limits clear for the child and easy to enforce for the parent.

5. Seek professional help 

If addiction symptoms persist or become severe, consider seeking support from a mental health professional trained in treating these kinds of behaviors in children. They can provide personalized strategies and therapeutic interventions, for children and parents, to reduce symptoms and restore wellness.

Internet addiction in children is a growing concern that requires our attention and proactive measures. By understanding the potential addictiveness of the internet, recognizing the signs of addiction, and implementing preventive strategies, we can empower children to develop healthier relationships with technology. 

Through clear boundaries, open communication, and a focus on alternative activities, we can create a balanced environment that allows children to harness the benefits of the internet while minimizing the risks of addiction.